It can be a good idea to be direct with people and let them know how you feel, what you want or how you can help. Being passive aggressive or expecting them to read your mind can lead to frustrating encounters and feelings of you trying to manipulate the situation. This can potentially over time lead to anxiety, decreased mood, problems with sleep or increased alcohol use, among other mental health concerns.
Listening and asking questions are good ways to let the other person know you care about them and what you’re discussing. For example, your significant other starts venting about something that happened at work. You feel bad for him so you offer solutions to this problem. Sometimes that may be welcome, but not always. Sometimes he just may need to vent. Asking the question “How can I be here for you” or “Do you need to just let it out or do you also want some help with problem solving” can be very effective ways to let him know that you’re listening, you care, and you’re alright going in whatever direction he needs to feel better. If you’d like to learn more about improving communication or other topics, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
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There’s strategies that you can implement to get better at not procrastinating as much and hopefully doing it little to not at all. The most common method is to break larger matters down into smaller tasks that are more easily achievable. Psychologically, it can make things seem not as overwhelming. It can also build positive momentum as you achieve each task. What once seemed like it was insurmountable, is now totally doable. You can also do this on a larger scale if your to do list has many different matters on it. Prioritize what needs to get done today and start chipping away at it.
It’s important to also try to determine whether there are other root causes of procrastination. It can sometimes be a symptom of mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, or can result from alcohol or drug use. The quality of sleep you’re getting can also be a factor. If you’d like to learn more about how to decrease procrastination, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
I can imagine some of you are saying: “But Rich … I’m not an artist or musician. I don’t know how to draw or play an instrument.” I’d answer that by saying maybe it’s time to think outside the box. The way you’ve thought of yourself and your abilities haven’t been working for you lately, so let’s try something new.
There’s something about art that can open up new ways of looking at the world. Maybe everyone can’t be a professional artist, but everyone can be artistic. Grab a pen and paper and doodle (or do it digitally on a tablet). Go for a drive and sing along to your favorite music. Go outside with your phone and take some interesting photos of a sunset or lake. Write a poem or song. And with all of this, don’t focus on the end product. Instead focus your energy on the creative process. You’ll be surprised that it leads to a break from rumination or negative instructive thoughts, and could change your perspective in a positive direction. If you’d like to learn more about infusing creativity into your life, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
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If you’d like to learn more about better sleep hygiene or other topics, contact me today for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer |
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