You’re likely using hope already pretty often and not even realizing it. Watching the big game and hoping your team will win? On your way to visit family and hoping traffic won’t be too bad? Have an important presentation at work and hoping it will go well? You’re already doing it! Hope helps ease the burdens in everyday life. But for the really difficult times, it sometimes can be challenging to see the big picture positive things in your life because you’re tunnel visioning the acute stressors. Take some time to tap into what you’re grateful for to help reset your perspective. Remember that everything will work out ok because generally it usually does. Avoid worse case scenario thinking, going down rabbit holes of negative scenarios, and all or nothing thinking.
If you’d like to learn more about how infusing hope in your life can help improve your mood or other topics, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well, Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
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Taking a proactive approach to shift self-talk towards positive themes can make a significant difference and help to stop the negative progression. This involves decreasing and ultimately stopping negative self-talk and reframing thoughts into positive goals and ways to achieve them. Develop some positive simple statements or mantras and say them to yourself throughout the day while taking deep breaths. Considering journaling to further explore and gain insight into where the negative thought patterns stem from and how best to deal with them. These and other actions can lead to more self-confidence and resilience in the face of challenges.
If you’d like to learn more about these strategies or other topics, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
It’s important to embrace the therapeutic mantra of “meeting them where they’re at.” What does this mean? It involves listening carefully and assessing what the person is looking for that could be helpful. It’s understandable to want to fix things or solve problems and provide a possible framework to do that. And in some cases, that’s exactly what a person needs. But sometimes, people just need to vent and feel heard. This can be very powerful in helping them calm down and feel better. Another strategy to consider is to ask them what they need. “I hear that you’re having a tough time right now. Do you need to vent and get it out or do you also need help with problem solving? I’m here for whatever you need.” Also, here’s more details about providing support to someone experiencing anxiety or depression.
If you’d like to learn more about these topics or others, contact me today for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer
It can be a good idea to be direct with people and let them know how you feel, what you want or how you can help. Being passive aggressive or expecting them to read your mind can lead to frustrating encounters and feelings of you trying to manipulate the situation. This can potentially over time lead to anxiety, decreased mood, problems with sleep or increased alcohol use, among other mental health concerns.
Listening and asking questions are good ways to let the other person know you care about them and what you’re discussing. For example, your significant other starts venting about something that happened at work. You feel bad for him so you offer solutions to this problem. Sometimes that may be welcome, but not always. Sometimes he just may need to vent. Asking the question “How can I be here for you” or “Do you need to just let it out or do you also want some help with problem solving” can be very effective ways to let him know that you’re listening, you care, and you’re alright going in whatever direction he needs to feel better. If you’d like to learn more about improving communication or other topics, contact me for a free consultation. Take care and be well. Rich Lombino, Therapist & Lawyer |
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